Look in the Mirror!

Tera Lea Day, CLSC, CHT is a certified Master Practitioner NLP Life Coach with training, education and a degree in Medical Management and Administration.  She has been teaching Anger Management Awareness since 2009. Initially teaching tools and techniques to develop new communication skills, Tera found her personal journey with anger issues to be the catalyst to her teaching style of personal process in the small group environment. Tera shares that she has lived, learned and continues to apply the very techniques she teaches, learning as much from her groups as she gives to them.
“My goal is to provide a safe place, without judgement for self-discovery, helping each person learn how the tools work." -
  www.tleaconsulting.com/  

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​        Ever feel like things are out of your control? Have you experienced a sleepless night with endless thoughts rehashing an encounter or situation that didn’t turn out as you planned? Did you experience the “Would have, Could have, Should have” syndrome or did your unconscious take you to the deep dark rabbit hole of irrational thinking?
There may be times in your life that everything seemed to be working against you. Anger and frustration set in, allowing you to excuse or blame the outcome on others. “How’s that working for you?” as Dr. Phil might said. Being stuck in the sleepless nights or days of frustration, rationalizing or playing the blame game, will not allow us to see through the muck and mire to make changes.
 
When was the last time you took a side glance as you passed a mirror, just to make sure everything looks good from the outside? Better yet, when have you ever stopped to look in the mirror, taking time to do eye to eye inventory of you starting from the inside? Change will only occur when we are willing to be accountable to ourselves for what is ours. You cannot change the people around you or the experiences of the past. (as much as we would like to believe that we can)
 
As with the lyrics from Michael Jackson’s song “Man in the Mirror”:
“I’m starting with the man in the mirror. I’m asking him to change his ways. And no message could have been any clearer. If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself, and make a change.”
 
Now Look in the mirror of life to learn about you. Do you like what you see? Is it time to make a change from within? Take this moment to “Accept You” for who you are, here and now. Believe that change is possible. Remember you are human with choices and decisions to make.
 
Keep it simple and learn your warning signs when things are not working for you. What are your triggers? People, places and things can all become triggers. What are your expectations? Perhaps they are unrealistic. Are you projecting an outcome before it happens? Perception can be a projection.
 
I realize these are questions that we do not like to ask ourselves, however, in doing so they allow us to know who we are and see the avenues to change. I found the first moment I truly “Looked in the Mirror” I had to become very real with myself.
 
My daughter shared the following with me, and it helped me to understand I had the pen within me to write the changes into my story.
 
YOU are the creator of your Reality & You need to take Responsibility for it…
Your current situation is the result of your past thoughts & actions…
You are the creator, writer, producer, director & actor in your own story…
So, make your reality how you want it….   (unknown author)
 
Now ask yourself is it time to “Look in the Mirror” and make the changes?  Start the re-write on your personal story today!
Remember you can always seek professional help with a therapist or life coach if you need assistance in this process.
Sending Healing to all, as you “Look in the Mirror” with the Power of Change, Tera Lea Day, CLSC, Cht,